Better access to your own feelings as a window to what is going on for you.
Developing clarity about what is important to you and what you need, both in general terms and in specific situations.
Enabling greater choice by finding space between what is happening in the moment, so you have freedom of choice, rather than reacting from habit or to emotional triggers.
Disarming self-critical inner dialogs by having a constructive way to mourn results that fall short of your aspirations.
Greater creativity in finding strategies to address your needs and goals through being willing and able to attempt solutions without insisting on success, total or even partial.
Inner peace by addressing inner conflicts and self criticism and reaching clarity about what is important to you.
Talking with Another Person – Connection
Understanding what is important to the other person and what they are actually hoping for, in the current situation and perhaps in more general terms.
Expressing yourself honestly and authentically in a way that the other person is more likely to hear and interpret as you intended.
Requesting what you need in non-confrontational ways.
Finding creative strategies beyond the initial strategies that you each brought to the situation by developing a shared understanding of the outcomes you each are hoping for. This does not mean that both people have the same hopes for outcomes, just a shared understanding. Hence an increased likelihood of finding a strategy that works for both of you.
Preparing for, and having, a difficult conversation with someone with whom you are experiencing conflict.
Expressing gratitude authentically in a way that the other person clearly understands the positive impact they had on your life.
Supporting someone else who is in emotional pain without taking that pain on yourself.
Getting emotional support by deepening your self-connection rather than making the other person responsible.
Participating in Groups – Sharing Responsibility
Understanding the importance of having a clear, shared purpose and how to identify it.
Understanding how to lead a group.
Understanding how to support a group leader.
Balancing the shared purpose of the group with individual goals and needs.
Engage the full creativity of the group in developing strategies/solutions and framing necessary decisions.
Use conflicts within the group in a constructive way to improve the group results. This involves looking at options beyond just compromise.
Enabling honest and authentic self-expression by all members of the group leading to a collective understanding of the shared purpose, as well as individual goals and needs.
